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An Ending a Begining
Eagles that Lucy took pictures of in Calfornia 2001
A letter from Lucy. It touched my heart.
Dear Ginger,
Hey do you know that you know how to touch me every time. You know the songs to play, the words that make me feel my feelings, the words that make me grow up, the messages that make me think and just everything that I ever wanted in a friend that I will cherish forever. Thank you for coming in my life and putting a meaning behind everything that I needed to deal with from my past. Your are my best friend ever. Thanks allot. I LOVE YOU...... I just wanted to let you know that you are a great sponser and I am very thankful for finding you and you giving me another chance.
For that I will always cherish your words of wisdom forever.
LOVE & HUGS
Lucy
For you for Lucy, and all those I've touch in someway,
Or they have touched me:)
The Awakening
A time comes in your life when you finally get it, when,
in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead
in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your
head cries out, "ENOUGH!" Enough fighting and crying
or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting
down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside,
you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears
and begin to look at the world through new eyes. This
is your awakening.
You realize it's time to stop hoping and waiting for
something to change or for happiness, safety, and
security to come galloping over the next horizon.
You come to terms with the fact that you are neither
Prince Charming nor Cinderella. And that, in the real
world, there aren't always fairy tale endings (or
beginnings, for that matter). And that any guarantee of
"happily ever after" must begin with you...and in the
process, a sense of serenity is borne of acceptance.
You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that
not everyone will always love, appreciate, or approve
of who or what you are...and that's OK. They are
entitled to their own views and opinions. And you
learn the importance of loving and championing yourself.
And in the process, a sense of newfound confidence is
borne of self approval.
You stop complaining and blaming other people for the
things they did to you or didn't do for you and you learn
that the only thing you can really count on is the
unexpected.
You learn that people don't always say what they mean or
mean what they say, and that not everyone will always be
there for you, and that it's not always about you. So you
learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself
and, in the process, a sense of safety and security is
borne of self-reliance.
You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to
accept people as they are and overlook their
shortcomings and human frailties and in the process, a
sense of peace and contentment is borne of forgiveness.
You realize that much of the way you view yourself and
the world around you is a result of all the messages and
opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche. And
you begin to sift through all the junk you've been fed
about how you should behave, how you should look, how
much you should weigh, what you should wear, what you
should do for a living, how much money you should make,
what you should drive, how and where you should live,
who you should marry, the importance of having and
raising children, and what you owe your parents, family,
and friends.
You learn to open up to new worlds and different points
of view. And you begin reassessing and redefining who
you are and what you really stand for.
You learn the difference between wanting and needing
and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you've
outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with
and in the process, you learn to go with your instincts.
You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive. And
that there is power and glory in creating and contributing
and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a
"consumer" looking for your next fix.
You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity
are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era but the mortar
that holds together the foundation upon which you must
build a life.
You learn that you don't know everything, it's not your job
to save the world and that you can't teach a pig to sing.
You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility
and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to
say 'NO.'
You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose
to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.
Then you learn about love. How to love, how much to
give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away.
You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not
as you would have them be. You stop trying to control
people, situations, and outcomes. And you learn that alone
does not mean lonely. You also stop working so hard at
putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and
ignoring your needs. You learn that feelings of entitlement
are perfectly OK, and that it is your right to want things and
to ask for the things you want and that sometimes it is
necessary to make demands. You come to the realization
that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness,
sensitivity, and respect and you won't settle for less. And
you learn that your body really is your temple. And you
begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin to
eat a balanced diet, drink more water, and take more time
to exercise. You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear,
and uncertainty and so you take more time to rest. And,
just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul. So
you take more time to laugh and to play.
You learn that, for the most part, you get in life what you
believe you deserve and that much of life truly is a self-
fulfilling prophecy.
You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working
for and that wishing for something to happen is different
from working toward making it happen. More importantly,
you learn that in order to achieve success you need
direction, discipline, and perseverance. You also learn
that no one can do it all alone and that it's OK to risk
asking for help.
You learn the only thing you must truly fear is the greatest
robber baron of all: FEAR. You learn to step right into
and through your fears because you know that whatever
happens, you can handle it and to give into fear is to give
away the right to live life on your own terms. And you
learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living
under a cloud of impending doom.
You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't always get
what you think you deserve, and that bad things sometimes
happen to unsuspecting, good people. On these occasions
you learn to not personalize things. You learn that God
isn't punishing you or failing to answer your prayers. It's
just life happening. And you learn to deal with evil in its
most primal state...the ego.
You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy, and
resentment must be understood and redirected or they will
suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that
surrounds you. You learn to admit when you are wrong
and to build bridges instead of walls.
You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the
simple things we take for granted...things that millions of
people upon the earth can only dream about: a full
refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long,
hot shower.
Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by
yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray
yourself and to never, ever settle for less than your heart's
desire.
And you hang a wind chime outside your window so you
can listen to the wind.
And you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting,
and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.
Finally, with courage in your heart and God by your side,
you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to
design, as best you can, the life you want to live.
I love you Lucy
Who ever wrote this please tell me so I can give you credit for it.
Thanks Ginger
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