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Proper Conduct When Courting
A Virtual Relationship has many meanings to many different people. These guidlines were set down to assist all in learning both what is traditional and what is proper. This is meant as a guide only and some variations may be seen but it is always most important to maintain decency in all of your affairs - both regular and of the heart. Always respect the rights of others and make no open comments or gestures that should not be made in mixed company or in front of small children.
Common Rules of Courting
1. It is proper for the man to ask in open room prior to linking with any female. (This one rule is automatically void after one month of courtship)
2. It is proper for the couple to decide that a courtship is justified before asking permission to court.
3. It is proper for the man to ask the head of the womans household if it is ok for them to court. If the woman does not belong to a household then it is proper to ask the King
4. Once permission to court has been given it is important that all language, gestures, and shows of effection be proper for open room.
5. Never take a courtship litely.... this is most often a step toward Virtual Weddings. It is the equivalent of engagement and should not be entered into without serious consideration on the part of both involved.
Rules of Courtly Love
by
Andreas Capellanus
1. Thou shalt avoid avarice like the deadly pestilence and shalt embrace its opposite.
2. Thou shalt keep thyself chaste for the sake of her whom thou lovest.
3. Thou shalt not knowingly strive to break up a correct love affair that someone else is engaged in.
4. Thou shalt not chose for thy love anyone whom a natural sense of shame forbids thee to marry.
5. Be mindful completely to avoid falsehood.
6. Thou shalt not have many who know of thy love affair.
7. Being obedient in all things to the commands of Ladies, thou shalt ever strive to ally thyself to the service of Love.
8. In giving and receiving love's solaces let modesty be ever present.
9. Thou shalt speak no evil.
10. Thou shalt not be a revealer of love affairs.
11. Thou shalt be in all things polite and courteous.
12. In practising the solaces of love thou shalt not exceed the desires of thy lover.
