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RELATIONSHIPS
Parents if they are well-balanced people give you their love which is an extension of themselves—genuine; if they are not well-balanced people then it will be a love which conforms with their society—shallow. you have no choice, being a child with childish needs, but to take what they offer.
At 1 year old, a child generally knows its own size and physical limits, before that to a child he and his mother are the same person. The “terrible twos” is the time when a child has to give up his omnipotence; at about three years old (nursery age) he has come to terms with his limits of power. By the time a child is six years old, he has recognised the type of parents he has, and has adjusted himself accordingly. At 12 years old or thereabouts he has taken his first steps towards maturity, when he realises that he is studying for his own future.
Falling in love is a collapse of power-limits, being loved as a goal in life means being dependent again. Romantic love usually lasts no longer than 18 months as it’s a regression to infantile merging (0-1 year) and omnipotence (1-2 years), but if after this time the couple manage to accept each other for what they are in reality, that is, two separate individuals then theirs will be a happy marriage—strings of a lute which quiver with the same music—where switching roles, to be able to survive, is necessary.
Freedom is essential in true love which is a separate extension of oneself, and when one extends one grows. True love is giving one’s time. It’s not often “oh bliss” it’s more often “ oh blast”, but you will feel rewarded and grateful as in the Two Sides of the Coin : One side is take and demand and the other side is to give. If you take you have nothing to give. If you give the giving renews the source.
Evil, whether in a single individual or in a nation, is the deliberate stopping of spiritual growth, the causing of mental laziness, the stunting of mind and body.
Good, through which comes evolution, is spiritual growth, independence
