So I'm reading this article about preteens and their oral sex parties, and I really can't believe it.
When did all of that happen? And what was going on in their minds. I mean you shouldn't even know what oral sex is when your in middle school...and definitly not doing it!
Or maybe that's the problem. We have this idea built into our head, so much attached to sex and society views. Living within a contradiction of movies and entertainment splashing sex on sit-coms and magazines, and parents and schools telling you it's bad bad bad. So what's a girl..or a boy to do? Here is something so natural and built right into genes. Even without sex-ed. I'm sure we'd all figure out how to do it anyway.But I do think it's good we have sex-ed. I had it 4th, 5th and 7th grade. And i suppose some from 10th grade Health. I didn't learn to much the first two "sessions" of it. You sort of pick up the gist of it from tv, stuff you hear from older sibs, friends, what you read, or even from your parents.
But there's so much you don't learn, so much you don't get, and it does need to come from the parents. And it isn't coming from them. I don't remember having a "talk" with my mom. She asked me what sex is (while we were watching tv with the whole family there...thanks mom!) and i guess I answered correctly cuz that was it. But it's so wrong. A whole shift in thinking needs to take place. It needs to start as soon as your a child. Forget worrying about what is "the right time" or if your kid is old enough, because with what's being fed into everyone, as soon as you're born you're out there and being affected by it.
I think kids need to be taught about sex as soon as they've grasped language. It shouldn't be embarrassing, and sex shouldn't be shameful. Sex shouldn't be hidden. It shouldn't be taboo. You might look at the movies and say it's no longer a hush hush subject, but underneath it still is. Youths and teenagers still don't have a clue. We're still learning about sex through the wrong channels. Talking about body parts is great, but no one really talks to kids about sex. No one is willing to talk about what everyone is thinking. Someone needs to satisfy the curiosity. No one is asking or answering the questions kids want to know or hear in sex-ed, and parents are too embarrassed to talk about it with kids, and by the time your a teenager, you don't want to be hearing it from your parents anyway.
Middle-schoolers having oral sex parties? Freshman seeing what 69 is all about? Teens searching for expression, living with overworked hormones, curious about everything, there aren't any outlets to get any information. Sex needs to be taught from a young age. But what needs to be taught? Whose morals do you go by? Whose ethics? Should masturbation be talked about? Yes! Everything needs to be out. Everything, and it needs to be taught in school, cuz not every parent is going to do it. It needs to be the kids choice to do what s/he feels is right for him/her. But choices are being made and kids don't even know what they're doing. Because no one ever told them, or taught them. They don't even know what their choices are.
